I went across town to clean Mum and Dad's grave this morning (Sunday). It is supposed to be summer at the moment but it was really cold and also thinking about raining. Most unusually there were other cars in the car park and at least four other groups of people either tending or just looking at graves. I wonder if this was because this is a Bank Holiday weekend?
What surprised me the most was that there was somebody
tidying the grave next to my Mum and Dad's. In all the many times I
have visited the cemetery over the last 4+ years I have never seen anybody
doing this to my "next door neighbour's" grave. The old man
- perhaps late 70s - introduced himself as Edward. The deceased was his wife
but since he moved away to be nearer to his children he doesn't visit
her very often. He has decided that he is too old to drive so he came by
train, visited the grave on Saturday then stayed at a local guest house
before making a second visit to the cemetery on the Sunday. He looked sad
and very tired and as it is quite a walk to the station I did my good
deed for the day and offered him a lift in my car. He seemed very grateful so I
was glad I had thought to do this.
I didn't get much of a look at the other visitors but I did notice a lady in
her 20s in the newest section of the cemetery. From the back it looked like the
shape of a child's grave so that was upsetting.
One mixed emotion event that happened this week was the effective “closure
of the file” on Granddad by the Crown Prosecution Service. I’m happy that the
legal side is finished but I did rely on them for free advice and support.
I now owe
my solicitor a fantastic sum – which I haven’t got – so I am going to have sell
some of the shares that Mum and Dad left me. I don’t really understand why I as
the victim should end up out of pocket and I will have to double check
if the solicitor was joking when she said I could claim the money
back off Nan and Granddad.
and Dad died so many people seem to have assumed that I already knew things
that no normal teenager would ever need to know. It has been quite annoying and
frustrating when legal and financial people imply that I’m stupid not knowing
things that they regard as really obvious or really simple.