tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.comments2015-01-25T23:56:53.705-08:00Out of the DarknessTall Slim Sallyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01161731031589561410noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-58096451953581195982015-01-25T14:56:19.045-08:002015-01-25T14:56:19.045-08:00Explain to her exactly how You wrote on here...ver...Explain to her exactly how You wrote on here...very good wording and You got to the point!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-47306575659394734992015-01-24T12:48:24.276-08:002015-01-24T12:48:24.276-08:00Take her to one side and let her know that not eve...Take her to one side and let her know that not everyone is religious. Maybe suggest prayers after the meeting or just at one of the two meetings.<br /><br />Maureen - Grief the UnspokenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05393466675927178767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-60221113649360798612015-01-05T00:20:33.732-08:002015-01-05T00:20:33.732-08:00Im sorry for your loss. Not just the loss of your ...Im sorry for your loss. Not just the loss of your parents but for the loss of the life you had and the teenage years you should have had and enjoyed. You are obviously a strong woman to have come this far and I am sure you will continue to rise above the challenges that life throws at you. I hope good things are just around the corner for you, sweet girl. Congratulations on all you have achieved Suzie Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12907990809137972059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-77494853385665728132014-06-27T08:07:59.132-07:002014-06-27T08:07:59.132-07:00My mother died when I was nine years old after an ...My mother died when I was nine years old after an 18-month struggle with breast cancer. I was expected to carry on as if nothing had changed. There were not groups in school, no counseling was suggested, and if I even brought up my mother at home, my sister would say that we needed to move on.<br />When I was in my mid-thirties I found the NY Motherless daughters group, and through weekly support groups based on age at time of loss, I really was finally able to find closure. I realized that others had experienced many of the same things I had. Mother's Day is no longer sad for me. It used to be an incredibly depressing time! Unfortunately what I find is that even though I have worked through these things, I will never feel I had the kind of support and mothering many other people had growing up, and that will never go away. This can make me feel a bit isolated at times. The older I get, the more I realize that human beings don't really seem to understand what they haven't experienced for themselves. <br /><br />Anyway, I just wanted to say that it doesn't sound like you feel comfortable in the support group you're currently in. Therefore, maybe you should form your own group. It would be helpful to recruit the help of a social worker or therapist if you would like to form a support group. <br /><br />One of the women I met at the NY group was from London. I helped her form the group in London, since she didn't have one there. We posted flyers in restaurants, etc. explaining what we hoped to accomplish. This friend had also lost both parents, as you have, at the age of five and ten. <br /><br />I think you are on the right track with this blog, but it sounds like you would really benefit from a face-to-face group of people your own age in your own town.<br /><br />Hope this is helpful. You seem like a very strong person.<br /><br />All the best,<br /><br />CathyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-16961483510981302392014-06-27T07:09:10.409-07:002014-06-27T07:09:10.409-07:00I think you just need a camera with a decent micro...I think you just need a camera with a decent microphone and a free editing software package. I'm just scared my students would find it, and also I wouldn't have time to edit videos. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08435043281445251987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-44609735291855012592014-06-25T01:20:58.015-07:002014-06-25T01:20:58.015-07:00I have never thought about doing a video blog but ...I have never thought about doing a video blog but the idea is very tempting. What do you need in terms of software and hardware?Tall Slim Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01161731031589561410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-83270648738050803422014-06-24T12:32:25.144-07:002014-06-24T12:32:25.144-07:00Sounds great to take your blog in a new direction....Sounds great to take your blog in a new direction.<br /><br />I am very tempted to start video blogging! I am scared because there's no anonymity but I think it would be more rewarding. What do you think?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08435043281445251987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-27376211085029985352014-06-01T03:09:50.936-07:002014-06-01T03:09:50.936-07:00I really admire you, you've been so strong and...I really admire you, you've been so strong and I just wanted to say that I find your stories very moving and you're inspiring!Wrighty19https://www.blogger.com/profile/11071572253668396543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-6150300700722896002014-05-31T14:03:04.532-07:002014-05-31T14:03:04.532-07:00I feel your pain sister, my mother died when I was...I feel your pain sister, my mother died when I was 12, and Dad when I was 35. No brothers or sisters. It hasn't been easey.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12380129621765222584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-81261057058109190582014-05-25T20:23:09.619-07:002014-05-25T20:23:09.619-07:00You're doing great! Remember that your track r...You're doing great! Remember that your track record for surviving bad days is 100%. No matter how bad you feel you will make it through. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10302522251216452827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-63367049818769041392014-04-27T19:41:55.685-07:002014-04-27T19:41:55.685-07:00My daddy died this month and I'm a student at ...My daddy died this month and I'm a student at UConn. I have had a lot of these things said to me. Thank you for posting this. Glad I'm not alone in getting irritated when I hear some of these thingsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-88305447468597426762014-04-20T03:22:28.530-07:002014-04-20T03:22:28.530-07:00I love your blogs and I love that you're so br...I love your blogs and I love that you're so brave and positive. It's unfortunate that J has to leave. As for a present... it really depends on what she's in to really? :/ I'm sure she will love what ever you choose, as it's the thought that counts :) <br /><br />http://tahneatnewman.wordpress.com/ Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-64951907963851418912014-04-06T18:47:24.679-07:002014-04-06T18:47:24.679-07:00Make her a website on blogger as a tribute to her...Make her a website on blogger as a tribute to her.Blog Ownerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14109753035374085401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-16699259191237241692014-03-28T03:32:51.427-07:002014-03-28T03:32:51.427-07:00I will be thinking of you and your Dad on Friday. ...I will be thinking of you and your Dad on Friday. Anniversaries can be very painful!Tall Slim Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01161731031589561410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-12628673805561585822014-03-27T02:21:03.502-07:002014-03-27T02:21:03.502-07:00I have dreams about Dad sometimes. Usually it'...I have dreams about Dad sometimes. Usually it's quite nice. I told him in a dream about me and my boyfriend moving in together. I don't believe it was really him or that he is still alive somewhere, but it was nice to feel like I'd seen him again.<br /><br /> It's the anniversary of his death tomorrow :(<br /><br />Thanks for the heartfelt post. x<br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08435043281445251987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-68559471540275013542014-03-19T08:01:26.161-07:002014-03-19T08:01:26.161-07:00Of for goodness sake! These people are so insensit...Of for goodness sake! These people are so insensitive. How terrible! <br />They house can be used for whatever the oweners like. What do they want from you, to move out? Ridiculous!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08435043281445251987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-17488800894092970662014-03-06T05:59:50.338-08:002014-03-06T05:59:50.338-08:00That is disgusting! I would be mortified if that h...That is disgusting! I would be mortified if that happened. My Dad's colleagues all really loved him and they meet with my Mum every year to remind her how important he was. <br /><br />I think what the head teacher did was absolutely terrible. A memorial is not a temporary thing that is kept up for three short years. You were right to complain and I'm so glad the University helped you with this! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08435043281445251987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-51739026488176251422014-02-22T13:24:18.229-08:002014-02-22T13:24:18.229-08:00This was such a moving post, I think you're in...This was such a moving post, I think you're incredibly brave not only for posting about this, but for fighting against the removal of his memorial. It can be incredibly frustrating when people don't truly understand what a loss like that is like, and especially in the new headteacher's position I agree that it's very insensitive of them to be so nonchalant about something which would mean so much to another person, and really to anyone who loses somebody so close to them.<br /><br />Your writing is so eloquent, looking forward to reading more from you :)<br /><br />diaryofadeera.blogspot.co.ukAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10535911708958552178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-68192203390619036882014-02-14T03:33:19.810-08:002014-02-14T03:33:19.810-08:00Some religious figures actually have very low soci...Some religious figures actually have very low social skills, and definitely aren't someone to turn to! I think religion gives people a goal that is quite selfish, by 'converting', rather than just supporting someone. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08435043281445251987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-83439626724127810912014-02-09T17:12:31.799-08:002014-02-09T17:12:31.799-08:00Sorry you had to experience people who were only o...Sorry you had to experience people who were only offering help to further their agenda. I am so sorry for your loss, I lost both my parents within 8 months of each other last year. Its a very hard road but we don't seem to have a choice but to walk it. Much love. Kathleen Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-46701795001789619032014-01-01T11:36:12.946-08:002014-01-01T11:36:12.946-08:00Happy New Year Sally! Hope your Christmas was ok. ...Happy New Year Sally! Hope your Christmas was ok. xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08435043281445251987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-74805494779140835262013-12-04T06:30:48.085-08:002013-12-04T06:30:48.085-08:00You really have had a difficult time. Do you have ...You really have had a difficult time. Do you have an aunt or uncle? Perhaps you could try to pursue a strong relationship with them. Do you have brothers or sisters? Where are you spending Christmas this year? I hate to think of you spending it with your grandparents being mean!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08435043281445251987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-18504150977795212702013-11-22T01:22:41.973-08:002013-11-22T01:22:41.973-08:00That's terrible that someone went in your pare...That's terrible that someone went in your parent's room. How awful! Well done for sorting the work out. Houses are hard work and a big responsibility, and very stressful!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08435043281445251987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-23823758166702055622013-11-16T16:39:47.106-08:002013-11-16T16:39:47.106-08:00You seem to be coping quite well, for one so young...You seem to be coping quite well, for one so young who has not only lost both parents, but gone through all you have since. I'm sure I've said this before, but you are an inspiration, Sally. You haven't 'lost' the person you were meant to be... you are a survivor in every sense of the word.<br /><br />My mother has been gone five and a half years now... I talk to her every day and travel to St Louis a couple of times a year to Mama's grave; visiting the final resting place of your mum and dad is not strange at all... it only affirms the love you have for them and that they will never be out of your heart.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13430872985988041256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8220281538793114759.post-80488256643862494082013-10-19T13:13:30.218-07:002013-10-19T13:13:30.218-07:00I am so sorry this happened to you. I have a situa...I am so sorry this happened to you. I have a situation with my mom's plot as well. It belongs to my aunt and she never told me that my mom being there was temporary until last year, on my mother's birthday mind you, she said that I would have to exhume my mother and transfer to a different plot because that was hers and her husband's. This aaunt is also my godmother and leader of her group at church. That made me so angry and sad. I have started paying for a plot, which is very expensive too, but I know I will be better off once that is done and I can move my mom to the new one. Amazing how our relatives can be so cruel...Miracleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15045818704736912178noreply@blogger.com